Before we start, James and Jenny would like to express their gratitude to you all for coming so far to be with them today. They have both fallen in love with this beautiful part of the country and it means a lot to them to be married here. However it means more to them that they celebrate their union with their family and close friends around them. Your willingness to travel here means they have the best of both worlds, so please accept their heartfelt appreciation.
This ceremony is but an outward sign of their inward union of heart, mind and spirit, a celebration of the joining of two souls already attuned to one another. We are here to bear witness to the entry into the closer relationship of husband and wife of these beloved friends who are already one in spirit.
Reading by Catherine: Oh The Places You Will Go
Congratulations! Today is your day.
You're off to Great Places!
You're off and away!
You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes,
You can steer yourself in any direction you choose.
You're on your own. And you know what you know.
And YOU are the couple who'll decide where to go.
You'll look up and down streets. Look em over with care.
About some you will say, "We don't choose to go there."
With your head full of brains and your shoes full of feet,
You're too smart to go down, any not so good street.
And you may not find any you'll want to go down.
In that case, of course, you'll head straight out of town.
It's opener there in the wide open air.
Out there things can happen and frequently do
To people as brainy and footsy as you.
And when things start to happen, don't worry. Don't worry . Don't stew
Just go right along. You'll start happening too.
Oh! The places you will go!
Jenny and James, you have come here to make public your love for each other; to give notice of your truth; to declare your choice to live and partner and grow together – out loud and in the presence of these witnesses, out of your desire that we will all come to feel a very real and intimate part of your decision and thus make it even more powerful.
Real love is something beyond the warmth and glow, the excitement and romance of being deeply in love. It is caring as much about the welfare and happiness of your life partner as about your own. Real love is not total absorption in each other; rather it is looking outward in the same direction, together. Love makes burdens lighter because you divide them. It also makes joys more intense because you share them. It makes you stronger, so you can be involved with life in ways you dare not risk alone.
The point of marriage is not to create commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his or her solitude, and thus shows the other the greatest possible trust.
Reading from Jules : Corinthians 13
Love is patient; love is kind and envies no one. Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude; never selfish, not quick to take offence.
Love keeps no score of wrongs; does not gloat over other men’s sins, but delights in the truth. There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to it's faith, it's hope and it's endurance.
May the love you share be as timeless as the tides and as deep as the sea.
Marriage requires devotion, the ability to listen, the wisdom to know when we are wrong and the humility to be able to put things right. Above all, it requires unquestioning love.
Marriage is a fluid relationship that assumes many different forms throughout the years, a relationship that is always growing or changing.
If you are growing as individuals, different today from yesterday, and if you can communicate this growth emotionally, philosophically and physically, your marriage over the years will remain vital and creative.
As well as the strong love and respect that Jenny and James have for each other, they share similar principles and priorities. Their relationship enables them to face life positively and constructively, and they now wish to live with the commitment and understanding that marriage represents.
James and Jenny, please remember as you take on this commitment to each other that there are certain styles of living together that will enable your relationship to grow and flower… caring and supporting each other through the joys and sorrows of life; developing and maintaining co-operation and mutual respect; cultivating the qualities of trust and understanding.
You have found in each other happiness, fulfilment and love. As a consequence of this you now wish to affirm your relationship, and offer each other the security which comes from legally binding vows, sincerely made and faithfully kept.
Will you please face each other and join hands.
James, will you take this woman, whose hands you hold, choosing her alone to be your wedded wife? Will you live with her in a state of true matrimony? Will you love her and comfort her through good times and bad, in sickness and in health? Will you honour her at all times, and be faithful to her?
James : I will.
Jenny, will you take this man, whose hands you hold, choosing him alone to be your wedded husband? Will you live with him in a state of true matrimony? Will you love him and comfort him through good times and bad, in sickness and in health? Will you honour him at all times, and be faithful to him?
Jenny : I will.
As you take these vows, I would like you to remember that:
To love is to come together from the pathways of the past and then move forward, hand in hand, along the uncharted roads of the future; ready to risk, to dream, and to dare. Always believe that all things are possible with faith, love in God and faith in, and love for, each other.
Will you repeat after me?
I, James, take you, Jenny, to be my wife, to love and cherish, from this day forward as long as we both shall live.
I, Jenny, take you, James, to be my husband, to love and cherish, from this day forward as long as we both shall live.
I understand you have brought rings as a token of your sincerity? Please place the rings on each others fingers.
These rings are a symbol of an unbroken circle of love. Love freely given has no beginning and no end, no giver and no receiver, for each is the giver and each is the receiver. May these rings always remind you of the vows you have taken.
Treat yourselves and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves.
Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be shelter to the other. Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other. Now there is no place for loneliness for you, for you are two persons, but there is only one life before you. Go now to your dwelling place, to enter into the days of your togetherness, and may your days be good and long together.
James and Jenny, in so much as the two of you have agreed to live together in matrimony and have promised your love for each other by these vows, the joining of your hands and the giving of these rings, by the authority given me by the Registrar General of Scotland, I now declare you to be Husband and Wife.
Congratulations, you may kiss your bride.
It is my privilege to present to you Mr and Mrs Jim Smith.
We want to thank you again for making our wedding celebration so wonderful! You took so much care and made our wedding unforgetable… We will always remember our special day, it was so emotional! You are really gifted with your talent.