Day 3 The Real God – The Real You

Long At Sea

I left The Home so long ago nowIMGA0710.jpg
that I would not recognize my own face.
I constructed the Boat of my Life
and I set out
into the open sea
waving to all who knew
that the seas would give me
everything I could handle
and everything I could not
and yet they waved, and I set out
into the open sea
in the Boat of My Life
built from Soul, crafted by Heart,
and with great innocence I pushed off
into the open sea
and have been away from my Home
so long now that I would not recognize my own face
but I know that Home
Home remembers me.

Today’s session took the format of questions and answers based on the material Neale has covered in the last two days. The first participant asked about death.

Q. Can you say more about the death realm?

A. In death, we go on to the realm of the absolute and to know that you know. It’s a place of blissful, wonderful resting in the knowingness. We then make a decision – we know we’ll eventually come back into physicality – so we decide how we want to come back – into the body of the person we’ve been or into another body, another lifetime, choosing the colours for our palette.

Q. While in the absolute realm, are there any teachings going on?

A. I don’t know, Neale admitted, that wasn’t told to me in the dialogues specifically. It’s been metaphysically described as the other side of an apple, except the other side is an orange – that’s how different the two sides are. I don’t think the growth occurs on that side – this is the place to refuel and refresh.

Q. Can you say more about the concept of infinity?

A. Infinity is not a straight line. When Neale asked God the same question, God said, ‘Stop thinking in linear terms – think in circular terms in order to embrace the concept of infinity. The process, while it never ends, simply gets larger, expands.

Q. Can you elaborate on the cross over between the two realms and the notion of karma?

A. Neale thinks Karma doesn’t exist in terms of karmic debt and balancing the scales one lifetime to another. He was told that karmic debt is just another way for humans to embrace the idea of bad/good, right/wrong. The idea of karma is that somebody’s keeping track – the concept of the karmic theory is that you keep repeating the cycle of life until you’ve paid off your debt. You then make new mistakes and have to start paying back karmic debt all over again. Eventually you pay it all off, then reside in bliss eternally. So the belief is that there’s a system of judgement and assessment with someone keeping track.

IMGA0721.jpgThe freedom-giving message is that we do not live in a reward and punishment paradigm. This pulls the rug out from under every spiritual system. How then, you might ask, does the process of evolution occur if there’s no motivation? The fallacy of a reward-punishment universe is that the threat of being punished will act as a deterrent and cause you to ‘act nicely,’ to modify your behaviour. We have proven the fallacy of that in human terms when we look at the number of times people who serve time in prison get out of jail and repeat the same crime. We’re trying to solve the problem with the same energy that created it, or to quote Einstein, “You can never solve a problem on the level on which it was created.”

The purpose of life is growth through the process of life itself. Growth does not require reward and punishment. As I said yesterday, when we talked about karma loka, when we die we are allowed to experience our life as others we’ve touched have experienced us – and it takes but a whisper in the eternal moment of now. We go through the knowing, not the pain. Not only would a loving God not require a reward-punishment universe, it would be self defeating. Who’s getting back at whom? Every life question always comes back to who’s God – are we all one or are we not? The question begins to answer itself. The answer to the question is in the question itself.

So, what’s the motivation then? The motivation is to feel so overjoyed that you walk away from an encounter with a feeling of self realisation, knowing, ‘That’s who I am!’ That is the bliss God feels at the macrocosmic level. That motivation is far more powerful than reward-punishment. The opportunities to implement our decision to ‘be nice’ or improve are bountiful. And the times that seem most difficult are the times we most need to love ourselves, not punish ourselves.

Q. ‘How can we move from the concept of all this wisdom to actually living it – being it? Yesterday, you said you only live it 2-3% of the time. So how can any of us in this room hope to do better?’

A. Please don’t make me your model, Neale, beseeched. The people in this room are far more capable and sensitive than me. Draw just the opposite conclusion – if I can do it at 2-3% you can do it at maybe 10%. I don’t think you’re limited in any way. Some people get to 100% but then it can fluctuate. We can at times be filled with Spirit, fully be our God self – it fluctuates moment to moment and there are steps we can take to encourage this…

Step 1
A vital first step is to totally ‘get’ that the way you are right now is perfect. All self judgement is self defeating. There’s nothing you have to do, nowhere you have to go, nothing you have to be other than who you are right now.

The first step is to avoid attacking yourself – to love yourself just as you are, sitting there right now. Relinquish all forms of self judgement and condemnation, expanding the wonderfulness that is who you really are.

A pivotal moment in Neale’s life took place 30 years ago at a workshop in Baltimore on Transactional Analysis which was big back in the day. The teacher asked everyone in the room to list their three biggest faults. She said, ‘You’ll know what they are because everyone in your life will have told you what they are.’ Neale was asked to read his aloud, and he quoted ego and recklessness and one other which wasn’t coming to mind in the moment.

IMGA0723.jpgNext the teacher asked, ‘Can you consider that your biggest faults are actually your biggest gifts?’ The ego for example – can you think of a time when your ego was actually a gift? It could be seen as self assurance or confidence. When you’re in a team situation, who do people call on when a spokesperson is needed to address a crowd? Neale could see that, of course, he is called upon in that way and people love him for it. It is the ego that enables him to get up in front of 3,000 people and make an announcement or speak to an issue.

‘Now let’s look at recklessness or risk taking,’ the teacher continued. ‘Who do people call on when they need someone to go where angels fear to tread?’ Again, Neale could see that this was what was often asked of him and how it serves.

So, the very thing people love you for is the same thing people criticise you for.

Step 2
Never, ever disown or make wrong or blame in any way any part of you. Self improvement is about modulating, not eliminating. So sensitise yourself to what a particular moment is asking of you. Neale reflects that this was so restorative for him. He was able to reclaim himself all those years ago and has never forgotten the experience of that workshop.

Step 3
Discern which part of yourself is needed to what degree in any given moment. It serves ourselves and the moment magnificently. Be utterly transparent in letting everyone see what it’s like to be you.

Step 4
Take someone else there or assist someone else in being more of that. If you want to experience more of anything, then cause another to know themselves as that. What moves through you sticks to you. There are really only two basic questions to ask in life:

1. What can I give to another?
2. What can I give to myself?

It is important to never reverse the order of these questions. It’s okay to ask what you can give to yourself – the first question always answers the second.


Step 5
We have to understand, and keep in the forefront of our consciousness, what we’re really doing here. It could look very much like ‘get the girl, get the job, get the car, get the wife, get the house, get the promotion, get the children, get the corner office…..’ as if that’s what we’re doing here – the ‘To do’ list – as opposed to…. those are simply the things we’re doing as a means to an end, the means to accomplish what we’re really here for.

Success is measured by how many things get crossed off the ‘To do’ list as opposed to asking ourselves, ‘What’s it like to be us – to create and recreate ourselves in the next grandest version ever we held about who we really are? What’s it like to ask ourselves the question, ‘Is this the best me?’ The key is to look at ourselves without judgement, without anger, and to do the best we can do. Sometimes asking the question can give us the opportunity to make another choice. Be richly and continuously aware of what you’re doing. We came into physicality to decide again who we really are. We will then see every incoming moment as an opportunity to ask, ‘Who am I?’ and ‘Is this what I choose to be now?’

Step 6
You need to be aware of what the next grandest version ever you held about yourself is. People have generally not considered themselves in that context. What is that vision of yourself? People think in terms of doing-ness, rather than being-ness. The soul continues to invite us to be who we said we want to be. The fastest way to accept yourself as who you are is to accept everyone else as who they are, exactly as they are showing up right now. Life circumstances are set up to get you to decide again.

Neale concluded his presentation with the 5 Great Principles of Life as outlined in his latest book, Happier Than God….

1. The Law of Attraction

2. The Law of Opposites – places into your life the exact opposite of what you’re trying to attract to give you a contextual field in which to experience what you want to attract. Now, when the law of opposites introduces itself into your life, accept it – do not resist it. The act of resisting places it there more firmly. Welcome it and dissolve it through the power of non-resistance. We know it’s a sure and certain sign that we’ve begun to attract the thing we’ve been wanting to attract.

3. Gift of Wisdom – discernment

4. Joy of Wonder – allows you to imagine the most outrageous things and realise spiritual awareness. Do not limit yourself in any way – call forth from the field of possibilities for it is God’s good joy to give you the gifts you choose.

5. Presence of cycles – all things happen cyclically and if you’re willing to wait for it, all good will come. Be patient. Notice that what’s going on in this moment is good. Embrace what’s going on now – everything is perfect.

The very act of wanting something pushes it away from you because our wanting is a signal to the universe of ‘wanting’ – It’s your declaration. The real wanting of a thing declares that you don’t have it, so the universe can’t give it to you because you have identified with lack. So, instead, declare that you already have it. And remember, the fastest way to get it is to give it away. Demonstration comes before experience and produces it. So if, for example, you want all the love in the universe, then give all that love away.

And so ended the final session together with Neale at Findhorn, beautifully accented by this playful prose from tender heart of Em….

Go Outside and Play

“Go outside and play!”
said God.
“I have given you Universes as fields to run free in!
Here – take this and wrap yourself in it.IMGA0734.jpg
It’s called: LOVE
and it will always, always keep you warm.
And stars! The sun and the moon and the stars!
Look upon them often, for they will remind you of your own light!
And eyes… oh, gaze into the eyes of every Lover;
gaze into the eyes of every other
for they have given you their Universes
as fields to run free in.

You have everything you need.
Now go, go, go outside

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Photographers: Peter Vallance and Iain Davidson

Poems by m. Claire
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